Step 1: Introduction

Self-growth is a process of looking at your shortcomings or weaknesses and identifying areas that you could strengthen.

When you learn something new about yourself, you can feel excited because it is an opportunity to be more aware of how this new knowledge is manifesting in your life. You may value learning new things about others and the world, because it helps you to grow into a better person. That growth naturally strengthens your resilience.

The more you can trust in your ability to grow and change, the more you can trust in your ability to bounce back from problems.

You may also feel some nervousness or pain related to self-development, such as, „Oh, I didn’t know I needed to grow in this direction.„

For example when your partner tell you: „Can you put the phone down and listen to me?“, you can feel „yes, of course sweetheart“ or rather „I messed something up?.

You can used positive self-talk to ask yourself how your could grow more in paying attention – and/or putting down your phone.

You may have the initial emotional “oops” reaction, or you can be in defence, but you can shortened the time between when you notice this feeling and remember that feedback like this is an invitation to grow.

In any situation you may decide whether you want to grow or not.